They say you’re mean when really you’re clear.
They call you cold when really you’re boundaried.
They act like victims when really they’ve never taken accountability for how they show up in relationships; platonic, romantic, or professional.
I recently had a conversation that reminded me how often people will triangulate emotions with that of others; bringing up other people who were also dishonest, unclear, or passive just to avoid naming their own patterns. A situation where I was hurt was weaponized against me; that person told me I made them feel “small” just because I wouldn’t play into a false emotional dynamic.
Here’s what I know:
I show up. Authentically. Honestly. Clearly.
I tell you what I feel, what I need, what I value. I reflect truth, not to hurt you but because truth is the only thing that creates safety for me.
If you feel bruised by honesty, it’s not because someone was cruel it’s because you’ve never learned to self reflect without shame.
It’s not my job to carry your emotional avoidance. It’s not my job to heal the wounds you refuse to acknowledge. And it’s definitely not my job to sit in the “gray area” with people who claim they love me but only show up when they can control the narrative.
I release all of that. With love.
But I will not apologize for being direct, emotionally intelligent, or spiritually grown.
If you can’t receive that, I’m not your enemy, I’m just your mirror.
Here’s where I grow:
During this cycle 🔄I’m going to align myself to restructure my dreams to become my legacy work; assess aspects of my identity I am ready to shed so I can evolve; reflect on how technology/communication has blocked my flow; and prepare to recreate what needs to be rebranded, rewritten or rebirthed.
One day at a time.
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