There’s a reason why there is a male for every female and vice versa. Have you ever thought about getting married, being loved, and loving someone else ? If you’re a normal individual you have thought about who your soulmate is at least once. Why is it so hard to date, court, and get married nowadays if there’s somebody for everybody? Dating is a vicious cycle. Men are supposedly the predators yet you have more women taking that position today throwing the chemical balance off between men and women. More men are becoming use to flocking females, thots, whores, hoes, whatever you call them because women are allowing too much inconsistency, red flags, and chilling in their life or simply just trying to take on the role or principles of a man. Knowing your worth is worth your while and can help you figure out major decisions in your life. Don’t know your self worth, spend time with yourself and figure it out.

You also have a lack of standards, respect, discipline, and communication in general when it comes to dating. It’s important that you communicate your wants, needs, and desires to your partner; not leaving them to just observe and assume. Dating is a general concept not just for intimate and romantic relationships but for personal relationships and growth. Essentially you are dating your siblings, parents, family, friends, and associates which is the bases of how you handle your relationships. It’s a space you practice in and grow together.

Each person and relationship is its own. Don’t place your expectations upon people without communicating them because it’s the best way to be let down. From experience of studying myself, I’ve learned others. Humans have different perspectives and development cycles 🔄 they are transitioning in life so it’s a courtesy to not pressure yourself or others with unknown demands thinking it’s common knowledge because its knowledge to you, also consider the fact that in todays modern society we didn’t grow up seeing or knowing what healthy relationships are or what they look like 👍🏽. At least not all of us, I mean look at our families, communities and society.

We had to not only parent ourselves but some of us also had to parent others and ourselves too, so with that being said if you don’t have the capacity to communicate at the level of intelligence or patience you would a child but not speak 🗣️ in the tone of a child to an adult 👩🏽 then dating and courting may not work out for you. You may inherit a bad habit of feeling like why does this always happen to you or your experiences aren’t the best. When this happens you have to look in the mirror 🪞 reflect honestly on what you attract based on your intentions and/or actions.

For example, most men will complain about why females don’t never pay for nothing or use their significant other as their personal bank but fail to look 👀 at how they show up (starting with your personal brand) in society and your relationships. If you lead with your wallet, materialistic (a form of consumerism), and you lack the ability to make it clear what you expect in return if that’s your true self showing up then you will attract those types of females.

Another example, is women complaining about men being broke or only wanting sex when she may attract those type of men because of how she presets herself and what she accepts. I can truly speak 🗣️ from my perspective and ways as a woman that when I changed the type of men & women I had around me even as friends my life changed drastically. I created a life plan that updates every year, it consist of my core principles and values, goals and priorities. I do not connect with people if they do not align with my life path or what I seek in a life partner because we all have roles and responsibilities.

It is up to the man to be a leader, provider (to provide not just financially but provision which is a form of structure, discipline, and stability), and protector. He must move as such bringing in that masculine energy and power. That’s what it means to be the head of household. It is the woman’s primary principles that she must act as a creator, lover, and nurturer providing a different form of provision that leads to organization, discipline, and stability from a feminine energy and power. These dynamics are Yin Yang energy and a form of harmony. We must always strive for balance in our relationships and lives.

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We must start with simple communications for mutual understanding and a base especially for new relationships. It is unfair to you and another person when you don’t openly express your thoughts 💭 about who you are in a means of showing up as your true self, wording your expectations of what you want or looking 👀 for from a relationship because no one is a mind reader and if you are it’s rude to read people without consent or use your powers unrighteously if there is no consent. It’s an invasive way of getting to know someone.

My experience of dating and courting for the last 12 years went from being a promise to self of learning myself, love 💕, dating and courting to an experiment of relations between two people using myself as a variant subject and participant.

Here’s what I learned from my practice as a Comms Scholar and Practioner:

Understand the Process and Terms

Dating consist of social activities between two people with the aim of assessing each others compatibility/suitably to be partners in an intimate relationship, and or spouse. Dating is a social relationship, casual and fun. So What are the protocol, rules and practices to dating ? It’s a man made idea of searching for your soulmate, so it applies differently according to your location in the world.

Definition of Date 📆